I got married the 14th, on Valentines Day. Isn't that just so sweet? We did the courthouse thing. It was so peaceful... it was just he and I and Sehara, along with my parents and his mom and grandmama. We did pictures, courtesy of Selah Photography and went to O'Charley's to eat. I sooo wanted a steak and got it. Overall, it was the calmest experience I have had in a while. His family adores Sehara and I, as does mine, and I couldn't ask for much more.
Right now Sehara and Tim are at Church and I'm sitting on my bum, experiencing a Huge headache. I've been getting them daily for about a week now. No fun.
Work has upgraded my hours to 20 a week (from 10). I suppose I'm part-time now. The thing is with them, that they send people home early all the time to "save labor". I got 5 hours cut off my week from going home early yesterday. Regardless, it's more than before. I can say that it stinks that I'll have to move out soon due to disrespect (first excuse), then the owners walking away from the house (2nd excuse) because of their financial situation, when I'll finally be able to give them more money monthly. But, I don't think that's going to happen (giving them my $$) because of the lack of reasons I was given. In turn, I think I was the friend that was disrespected the most. I keep care of this house better than they ever did, with a dog. I never thought I would see my great friend send me a text saying we were kicked out, without talking to me first. I think communication is the key to all healthy relationships, and I learned that the hard way. I have been questioning what kind of friend I have invested in the past three years to be smacked in the face. Did I ever really know her?
I called her right away and had to probe every corner of the conversation to get even the littlest reply. You can send those texts, but you can't talk?!? One of the biggest problems, besides lack of respect, was that the utility bill was high (ok, call me so we can discuss it). I don't get that I am the one to get the brunt of the blame when the roommate downstairs leaves the lights on constantly, they hadn't been turned off in three months until I went down to the garage to do it. And she leaves the garage door open all day in the friggin dead of winter, along with using that door as her primary leaving/entering door. Who does that? Yeah, we three upstairs use our fair share of utilities, but we definitely do not abuse it. We are very conservative in that aspect because we know that times are hard. To top it off, I was literally depositing all of my paychecks, minus $20 for gas, into her account for rent/utilities. We both knew that once I graduated it wouldn't be the whole amount, but when the jobs got rolling, it would eventually balance out.
On a more positive note, Sehara has started calling Tim "daddy". We both never asked her to do it. The day we got married, she just started doing it. It's still really awkward, but I guess we'll get used to it. I wonder if the grandparents had anything to do with it? hmm. Married life is so nice. It's not much different, because we were spending all of our time together beforehand, just now it's accepted...lol. We've been going through all of our things to figure out this moving stuff, trying to get rid of the junk for now. I've accumulated quite a bit since I have been on my own. It's my pride that wants to keep it all, I earned it, ya know?
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I've already congratulate you, bit I'll gladly do it again... CONGRATULATIONS!! You know I'm happy for you and though it may be awkward, Tim will get a hug from me when we meet. Prepare him could ya? I don't want him to freak out. LOL!
Regarding the housing issue, I'm sorry that someone you thought was a dear friend has chosen to disrespect you so badly. Plain and simple, she's a hypocrite. I can't stand people who claim to be so righteous in their daily lives but can't give a friend the dignity of a phone call and an explanation. Good luck with where you'll be living temporarily.
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